40 things internet taught me about masculinity (and life)
3 min readNov 9, 2023
- Always be mindful of your surroundings
- Train for strength and size, train to protect others and yourself
- Be grateful for what you have
- No man is an island; stay close to your friends/family
- Take deeper breaths to remain calm and confident; don’t flex your abs
- Learn to build, create >>> consume. Building things make us happy.
- “Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it” — Hamza
- Don’t be afraid to learn new things
- Try to be independent in every way you can
- Eat healthy meals (food is fuel, nothing more)
- Be a leader (in every difficult situation, try to lead)
- Never berate your bros, help them grow
- Don’t gossip ffs (people ain’t bad, their situations are)
- May sound cringe but in order to grow, surround yourself with masculine men (vibe attracts your tribe)
- If you love work, that’ll give you happiness. Hence, never retire
- Write down your thoughts and introspect (maintain a journal)
- Again, may sound cringe: are you the type of guy that you’d want your daughter to go on a date with? (if no, work on yourself)
- “We’re all gonna make it brah” — Zyzz
- Think of yourself as a stone age man (our brain hasn’t evolved a lot since then), you’ll get a better perspective of life.
- Get your daily dose of vitamin D with sunlight
- Eat the frog first thing in the morning
- While doing so, fast intermittently for crystal clear focus
- Confidence goes up when self-doubt goes down
- Respect others, but never lose your self-respect in the process
- Going to the gym doesn’t make you masculine, but it’s surely the first step towards masculinity for a lot of young guys
- Mental health >>>> physical health. Prioritise it.
- Testosterone is a good indicator of drive. More testosterone = more drive. Research about it, it’s literally helps you grow in life
- Weak men were never respected/mentioned in any history book. Think about it.
- Grow your status irl, in your circle/society/office/college/school etc.
- Be selfless; it’s a virtue
- It’s a bit hard to explain but here goes nothing: masculinity and femininity is on a scale on opposite sides (sexual polarity). Both starts at 0 in the middle and extends on either sides. At what point of the scale are you at rn? Better to be a farther end of masculinity if you want a feminine counterpart on the similar opposite end of the spectrum (sounds weird but you may get it if you think through)
- Share, don’t overshare. Maintain a bit of secrecy, especially on social media.
- Think about work, don’t think about your crush lmao (quotes goes hard and goes like: don’t wait for the butterflies, build a garden…)
- May sound controversial again but imma say it: don’t be emotional (not saying to be a psychopath, but you need to control your emotions)
- People are filled with experiences, learn from them, they are an open book, ask questions, share and grow (one more reason to not don’t judge someone or gossip)
- Have a purpose in life
- Body posture reflects your confidence
- Clothing and looks makes you confident, don’t neglect it.
- “Looks and physique don’t matter” is a 100% lie. YOU CAN WORK ON IT!
- Cold approach people outside the internet (not on emails/dms only). It’s a skill and one of the best ways to boost confidence.
